Turning Self-Criticism into An Asset

While I was writing this blog, I came across an article by S.A.R.K, which is worth sharing.

Inner Critic

The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than what we might hear from the outside. Our “inside critics” have intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots.

You might be told by the critics that you’re too fat, too old, too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to try too many things…
It’s all balderdash!

Some elements of these may be true, and it’s completely up to you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to protect you.

You can:
Learn to dialogue with them.
Give them new jobs.
Turn them into allies.
You can also dismantle/exterminate them.”
-S.A.R.K. Creative Companion – How to Free Your Creative Spirit

It’s not that you stop having thoughts about how you view yourself, but you can choose to think better feeling thoughts about yourself.

Learn to treat yourself like a loving mother would treat a child or talk to yourself as if you were talking to a best friend. It will be a work in progress but press on.

Hugs,

Gina 

When we direct a lot of hostile energy toward the inner critic, we enter into a losing battle.
-Sharon Salzberg

The best way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

Winston Churchill said it best – Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about. The journey to success is not an easy one, it takes courage and determination.

There are many reasons why you may not be reaching your goals like, giving up too soon, or not having a strong enough action plan in place but one of the most common sneaky reasons is that we abandon what we truly desire.

You may question your abilities or feel foolish. You tell yourself things like I’m actually happy already I don’t need this added pressure. Self-doubt leaks into your heart and soul and despair sets in.

Imagine Thomas Edison or Steve Jobs saying, I’ve tried for too long and it’s still not working out so I’m throwing in the towel! Don’t give up on your dreams just because you haven’t figured it out just yet.

Best,

Gina

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.―Thomas Edison

telling the truth is about feeling good in your own skin, unencumbered and free

You are born and hard-wired with personal power, self-worth and inner guidance. Owning your personal power is the ability, to think, feel and act as you wish to. It is self-determination, confidence and a deep and an inner strength. It enables you to live your truth no matter how many other forces around you may want to stop you.

Many women are afraid to embrace and own their power because they feel they may be negatively judged or belittled for wanting to change. It’s true you might lose family and friends who are jealous that you are gaining confidence but then you will naturally want to surround yourself with liked minded people.

So, what does it feel like when you are losing your power? It may sound like a silly question but many women have not had the experience of being in their own power. It feels foreign and unfamiliar. Yet I tell you that you are equipped and born to feel and live with your own power. It’s natural as sunshine and yellow tulips.

Here are a few signs that you are failing to own your personal power:

Feelings of inferiority and self-doubt
tolerating people and things that drain you
You want validation or approval from others
Allowing others to control your decisions
You are a people pleaser
Feeling like a victim
Feelings of guilt of doing something for yourself
Difficulty in expressing your thoughts
Excepting abuse of any kind

You can reclaim your personal power by living your truth. This will be the beginning of your breakthrough. There may be a point in your life where you feel you no longer can pretend to be someone you are not.

Here are some signs that you confirm that you are moving in the right direction. You may find you are saying no or yes when you mean it. You will start to pay attention to your intuition. You may feel signs of relief when you start to take small steps towards what you really want to say, do or be. You won’t be making excuses as to why you can’t but you will start to look and find ways to make it happen.

Telling the truth is about feeling good in your own skin, unencumbered, free, and having the life you want to live.
Deborah King

Hugs,

Where are, you stuck in your life?

A lot has been written about the power of beliefs and with good reason: beliefs are very powerful. What is a belief? According to the dictionary a belief is:

An acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists; something one accepts as real or true; a firmly held opinion or conviction.

Many of us have been exposed to conflicting philosophies through family, friends, the media, society, religion and spirituality. The fact is we were instructed, trained and taught by family, school systems and the environment around us.

We were conditioned by our environment and surroundings.

The images and ideas communicated to us can be quite forceful on a subconscious level. Like most, you probably have some inherited beliefs that work and others that don’t and it would be too daunting a task to try to figure out where they all originated.

Therefore, how can you tell if you have a belief that doesn’t work for you? Ask yourself, where do I lose power in my life? With money, work, joy, health, friends, family? What problems keep appearing? Where are, you stuck in your life?

If you are often struggling; lacking in direction; or having difficulty achieving your goals and desires, you may find you are unconsciously or consciously carrying beliefs that aren’t working for you.

Face your challenges head on with the core belief that problems are just speed bumps on the road to your dreams. And from that place, when you take massive action-with an effective and proven strategy-you will rewrite your history.

Tony Robbins

Hugs

Gina

How to find a new job that you enjoy

Many people work in jobs or for people they dislike.

Quitting may not be the answer because most people need the money to pay their bills and have no savings to rely on. You may feel stuck and afraid of not knowing how to change things.

Here are some practical steps that work…

  1. Develop a compelling reason to do this job, for now. Consider what your life would be like if you had no income. That certainly would not feel better. So, this may be the leverage you need to keep you motivated to do this work, for now.
  2. While continuing to work at your current job, start immediately to search for a new job that is more in line with your values, dreams and overall joy.
  3. Make a list of the qualities you want in your new job. Such as location, salary, bonuses, benefits, company size, etc.
  4. Research the companies that appeal to you and send them your resume.
  5. Send your resume to employment agencies and be proactive with your employment search.

It can be discouraging when the job offers are not coming your way. I suggest adopting a healthy self-care routine, work-out, eat well, rest, play and spend time in nature.

Do what you love, as an example, if your goal is to be a fashion designer, create a space in home and time in which to design. This is very important. Do not stop doing what you love because you are not getting paid to do it.

Press on,

Gina Rizzo

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.

Steve Jobs

 

 

 

 

Resistance does not lead to change, acceptance does

Wise words by Cheri Huber, Zen teacher and writer.

It is a waste of time and energy to resist what is. Then why do we spend our lives in resistance? Because resistance maintains our sense of who we are by saying “no” to everything that doesn’t support our identity.

Identity is maintained by repetitious thoughts spoken by authoritarian voices telling endless stories about who we are and then judging us for not measuring up to some ill-defined standard.

Identity is maintained by holding the body configurations that produce emotional states that reinforce resistance.

Examples: clenched jaw, tensed shoulders

Identity is maintained by never examining the belief that “IF I FEEL THIS, I MUST DO THAT”.

The message is that resistance is necessary because life is threatening.

When resistance fails to produce the desired changes in our lives, we rarely let go, move into the present, and see other possibilities. We tighten more, tense hard, and attempt to control more completely.

But resistance does not lead to change. Acceptance leads to change.

by Cheri Huber

Zen Teacher and Writer

http://www.cherihuber.com

Hugs,

Gina

 

 

A method for increasing self-esteem

The purpose of this method is to help you increase your self-esteem and  self-confidence. If you are having a difficult time believing in yourself this would certainly help you to strengthen your will and dissolve self-doubt.

Everyday for the next 30 days choose one word from each letter A to Z that is positive, inspirational and helpful to you. Write the words “I am” before each word.

Example:

  • I am able.
  • I am beautiful.
  • I am caring.
  • I am dependable.
  • I am elegant.
  • I am freedom.

You get the idea.

If you want to make it fun. You can use difficult colour pens. 

Remember you have nothing to prove to anyone.  Like and approve of yourself just as you are.

Hugs,

Gina

 

 

The Diet that can produce wonders in your life


It is my pleasure to share with you the original, The Seven Day Mental Diet by Emmet Fox. This small booklet read by thousands of people since its publication in the mid 30’s is still fulfilling its promise, to improve the quality of your life. 

Click on the link below to get your copy.

The 7 Day Mental Diet

Hugs, Gina

Your Heart’s Desire is the Voice of God, and that Voice must be obeyed sooner or later.

― Emmet Fox

Do you need a miracle worker?

When I was a child I remember watching the movie, The Miracle Worker about Helen Keller and her teacher Anne Sullivan.  Heller Keller left a legacy not only to the blind and deaf community but to all of us.

Helen Adams Keller (June 27, 1880 – June 1, 1968) was an American author, political activist, and lecturer. She was the first deaf-blind person to earn a bachelor of arts degree.

During the first 18 months of her life Helen Keller was a normal infant who recognized the voices of her father and mother and experienced joy in the usual ways babies do. Then as she later recalled, came the illness which closed my eyes and ears and plunged me into the unconsciousness of a newborn baby.”

The illness erased not only the child’s vision and hearing but also, her powers of articulate speech. After Helen’s illness, her early childhood days were met with frustration and outbursts of anger.

Things changed for Helen when her family hired Anne Sullivan to teach her.

The most important day I remember in all my life is the one on which my teacher came to me,” Miss Keller wrote later. “It was the third of March, 1887, three months before I was 7 years old. Anne Sullivan, later dubbed “the miracle worker,” remained Helen Keller’s interpreter and constant companion until Anne death in 1936.

Some of Helen Keller Achievements

She is one of the most influential people of the twentieth century

She enjoyed horseback riding

The first deaf blind person to earn a bachelor’s degree

She published her famous autobiography The Story of My Life

Published 12 books in her writing career

She co-founded Helen Keller International

Keller was a prominent political and social activist

She was a leading member of the American Foundation for the Blind

She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom

Helen Keller is my inspiration.

Blessings,

Gina Rizzo

“I seldom think about my limitations, and they never make me sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at times, but it is vague, like a breeze among flowers. The wind passes, and the flowers are content.”

-Helen Keller

For more information on Helen Adams Keller

http://www.perkins.org/history

 

 

Nature rejoices in simplicity and nature is no dummy.

Simplicity Quotes

Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.
-Confucius

Beauty of style and harmony and grace and good rhythm depend on simplicity.
-Plato

I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.
-Lao Tzu

Our life is frittered away by detail… simplify, simplify.
-Henry David Thoreau

It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all.
-Laura Ingalls Wilder

If you can’t explain it to a six year old, you don’t understand it yourself.
-Albert Einstein

Nothing is more simple than greatness; indeed, to be simple is to be great.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Nature is pleased with simplicity. And nature is no dummy.
-Isaac Newton

Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.
-Coco Chanel

A little simplification would be the first step toward rational living, I think.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things, this is the best season of your life.
-Wu- Men

Plain question and plain answer make the shortest road out of most perplexities.
-Mark Twain

The word enlightenment conjures up the idea of some superhuman accomplishment, and the ego likes to keep it that way, but it is simply your natural state of felt oneness with Being.
-Eckhart Tolle

We struggle with the complexities and avoid the simplicities.
-Norman Vincent Peale

Desires must be simple and definite. They defeat their own purpose should they be too many, too confusing, or beyond a man’s training to accomplish.
-George S. Clason

Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.
-Jim Rohn

Hugs,

Gina