Turning Self-Criticism into An Asset

While I was writing this blog, I came across an article by S.A.R.K, which is worth sharing.

Inner Critic

The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than what we might hear from the outside. Our “inside critics” have intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots.

You might be told by the critics that you’re too fat, too old, too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to try too many things…
It’s all balderdash!

Some elements of these may be true, and it’s completely up to you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to protect you.

You can:
Learn to dialogue with them.
Give them new jobs.
Turn them into allies.
You can also dismantle/exterminate them.”
-S.A.R.K. Creative Companion – How to Free Your Creative Spirit

It’s not that you stop having thoughts about how you view yourself, but you can choose to think better feeling thoughts about yourself.

Learn to treat yourself like a loving mother would treat a child or talk to yourself as if you were talking to a best friend. It will be a work in progress but press on.



When we direct a lot of hostile energy toward the inner critic, we enter into a losing battle.
-Sharon Salzberg

Say what you mean – Stop Whining, Start Living

I read and listen to a lot of personal transformation books. Some book titles are so direct that you don’t even need to read the book to get the message however reading them might prove to be useful.

Here are a few of my favorite titles.

There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Cheri Huber

What You Think of Me is None of My Business
Terry Cole-Whittaker

All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten
Robert Fulghum

It’s Called Work for a Reason
Larry Winget

Stop Whining, Start Living
Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Why Men Love Bitches
Sherry Argov

Sometimes I feel that we should communicate just as clearly and directly, it might save a few hours of trying to explain something that only requires a few sentences.

happy reading,


The four-letter word that describes so much. Love

Love QuotesThere is no remedy for love but to love more.
-Henry David Thoreau

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
-Mother Teresa

If you could only love enough, you could be the most powerful person in the world.
-Emmet Fox

Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
-David Frost

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
-Lao Tzu

Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.
-Richard Bach

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.
-Marcus Aurelius

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.

People are weird. When we find someone with weirdness that is compatible with ours, we team up and call it love.”
-Dr. Seuss

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.
-Douglas Yates

Love is a better teacher than duty.
-Albert Einstein

Fortune and love favor the brave.

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
-When Harry Met Sally

Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun doth move; Doubt truth to be a liar; But never doubt I love.”
-William Shakespeare

Love doesn’t make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
-Elizabeth Browning

Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.”
-Charles Dickens



You can’t be a victim and expect to heal your past.

Life may not seem fair or you may have been born into less than desirable conditions and these events can stick with you for a long time.

What happens to many is that their stories begin to define them, so they make decisions and choices from a place of powerlessness and they embody the victim mentality.

There are perks to being in a victim mentality,

  • you get attention, love and validation
  • you don’t have to take responsibility for your life
  • you have the right to complain
  • others get to pity you
  • people are less likely to criticize you
  • others feel compelled to help you
  • you get to stay stuck in your drama

Focusing on your old story isn’t serving you and blaming others may provide temporary relief but it will also keep you stuck and it may lead you to feelings of powerlessness.

Forgiving those who have hurt or disappointed you isn’t an easy process but it does free you from being a victim. You may want to work with a therapist, spiritual counsellor or discover self-help material but it will take some time to shift your victim mindset.

The rewards of freeing yourself from the past are worth it. You are worth it.

For more help with this refer to my blogs

You Have the Power to Heal Your Life – Posted on October 25, 2016

Activate Your Power – Posted on November 15, 2016



Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don Miguel Ruiz



How can you respect yourself if you’re afraid to be who you are?

Growing up my parents were always worried about what the neighbours thought. They were afraid to say anything that would bring shame to the family.

Was there something special about the people in our neighbourhood that I didn’t know about? Were we the only family who had problems?

Looking back now, I often wonder what heck were my parents thinking?

Today when I catch myself caring about, “what will the neighbours think” I say to myself it’s none of my business what the neighbours think!!

While I am not totally free of what people think about me and caring a little wee bit is ok because there is a potential for growth however I can say this for sure; I care less and less. Its not about being rebellious or controversial its more about really liking who you are.

Life and people don’t always make sense but being honest and true to yourself makes really good sense.

If you can’t accept who you really are how can anyone else?

With respect,


I never loved another person the way I loved myself.

Mae West




Activate Your Power

Activate Your Power

Recently I’ve been having a hard time sticking to my morning self-care routine. I’ve had a challenging past year with family, work and my health. This is the time I needed my self-care routine the most yet it’s the easiest time to give up.

During difficult times its easy to eat a little more, skip work outs and meditations. In moderation there is nothing wrong with any of these things however don’t abandon taking good care of yourself especially when you need it the most.

As I was preparing to my write out my morning self-care regime, for the next few weeks a flash of intuition came to me “you must activate your power”.

A stove has the power to cook food but you need to turn on the fuel. Water has the power to quench your thirst, clean your environment and enjoy a wonderful swim in the lake or ocean but all of these things require action.

You have personal power but just like Dorothy and her friends in the classic movie Wizard of Oz you must know that you have the power and you must understand how to use it.

During those times when you are feeling helpless and your life feels stuck like old gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe ask yourself what can I do right now to tune into my personal power?

Do I need a long walk in nature? Can I talk to a good friend? Do I need to seek help from a professional or spiritual advisor? Do I need a nap, meditation, protein, vegetables or a good old fashion cry?

I encourage you to tune into yourself and find ways that nurture and support you. You may not feel it at the time but the Universe loves and supports you.

Read the suggestions listed below and if your heart feels lighter when you read it then it might be worth a try.

Self-Nurturing Actions

-walk in nature

-talk to caring person

-journal your feelings

-yoga or dance

-paint, colour or any type of art

-have a cry and let things out

-hit pillows and yell

-write a letter to the Divine

-exercise of any kind

-read uplifting bookings

-watch funny movies

-eat natural wholefoods

-take a bath and go to sleep

When you tune in to yourself and ask “what do I need in this moment” and then take inspired action, you are tuning into your personal power. In every day lingo you are loving and taking good care of yourself.

The more you take good care of yourself the more you have to share and give to others.


Gina Rizzo

When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. ”

– Jean Shinoda Bolen


The Enchanted Cottage

The Enchanted Cottage

I recently watched a movie on http://www.tcm.com/  called The Enchanted Cottage which I feel really highlights the power of our beliefs and how we can transform difficult times by wanting to see the good in all things.

When socialite Army Air Force pilot Oliver Bradford (Robert Young) is disfigured by war wounds, he hides from his family, including his mother and fiancée and decides to live in seclusion in the seaside New England cottage he had rented from its current owner, Mrs. Minnett, for his originally planned honeymoon.

Laura Pennington (Dorothy McGuire) is a shy, homely maid who has hired on as the cottage’s caretaker. Oliver and Laura gradually fall in love and discover that their feelings for each other have mysteriously transformed them. He appears handsome to her and she seems beautiful to him. This “transformation” is perceived only by the two lovers (and the audience). Laura believes that the cottage is “enchanted” because it was once rented to honeymoon couples, and in time the widowed Mrs. Minnett reveals the true story behind the cottage’s enchantment legend.

I highly recommend this movie not only for the love story but for the transformative and renewing powers of love.  It’s not always easy to trust that the Universe has your back during difficult times but this movie reminds us that in doing so we can truly transform our life for the better.


No matter what happens, if I get pushed down, I’m going to come right back up.

Doris Day