Turning Self-Criticism into An Asset

While I was writing this blog, I came across an article by S.A.R.K, which is worth sharing.

Inner Critic

The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than what we might hear from the outside. Our “inside critics” have intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots.

You might be told by the critics that you’re too fat, too old, too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to try too many things…
It’s all balderdash!

Some elements of these may be true, and it’s completely up to you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to protect you.

You can:
Learn to dialogue with them.
Give them new jobs.
Turn them into allies.
You can also dismantle/exterminate them.”
-S.A.R.K. Creative Companion – How to Free Your Creative Spirit

It’s not that you stop having thoughts about how you view yourself, but you can choose to think better feeling thoughts about yourself.

Learn to treat yourself like a loving mother would treat a child or talk to yourself as if you were talking to a best friend. It will be a work in progress but press on.



When we direct a lot of hostile energy toward the inner critic, we enter into a losing battle.
-Sharon Salzberg

Don’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands

If you have tried and you think you have failed get up try again. Think how boring the other options are. Here are some wise words on living life with gusto.

A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.
-James Allen

If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.
-Katharine Hepburn

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.
-Maya Angelou

The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
-Amelia Earhart

If you don’t like being a doormat then get off the floor.
-Al Anon

Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.
-Byron Katie

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
-Nelson Mandela

What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.

You live but once; you might as well be amusing.
-Coco Chanel


be good to yourself

Criticism can be toxic to a relationship and to your self-esteem. Stop beating yourself up. How many times a day do you tell yourself that you’re too large, you’re not the right size, you’re not rich enough, you’re too young, you’re too old?

If you grew up with extremely critical parents, you may be sensitive to criticism and very critical yourself. Being critical about yourself and others may be an indication that you are rejecting a part of your self that you see as weak or flawed.

You can change your self-critical behaviour by praising yourself instead. You will get more work accomplished and be more motivated to reach for your goals.
More importantly is that you will feel better in the moment. Learn to shift your perception and reach for feeling more appreciation.

Spend 5 minutes a day affirming your positive qualities. It will feel awkward and weird at first but in time you will be able to interrupt your usual pattern of self-critical thoughts and replace them with kinder words.

Be good to yourself,


Words have a tremendous impact on all our lives. I know people who have lived lives of crippling insecurity because their parents spoke words of judgment, criticism, and failure to them on a regular basis. 
― Joyce Meyer

Gossip isn’t fun when it’s about you.

Gossip is one of those things that even well-meaning people get caught up in. I know from personal experience that sometimes I get seduced into gossiping. It always leaves me feeling bad about myself. I feel like a football just kicked me in the stomach.

Gossip can be away of connecting with others and forming a bond however this is a weak and shallow bond. Gossiping is also a form of jealousy and insecurity.

As I see it, it’s gossip if you are criticizing, blaming, accusing, belittling or repeating stories of ill intent.

Of course, you may speak of others and share your thoughts and feelings about another with others, just do your best to stay neutral and avoid deliberate hurtful conversation.

I like having an opinion and I enjoy sharing my thoughts with others however I do my best to ensure that I am not seduced by the peer pressure of the people I’m with.

Gossip isn’t so much fun when it’s about you. My advice, keep gossip to a minimum and do unto others as you would want done to you.



Be Impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don Miguel Ruiz


The four-letter word that describes so much. Love

Love QuotesThere is no remedy for love but to love more.
-Henry David Thoreau

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
-Mother Teresa

If you could only love enough, you could be the most powerful person in the world.
-Emmet Fox

Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.
-David Frost

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
-Lao Tzu

Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.
-Richard Bach

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.
-Marcus Aurelius

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.

People are weird. When we find someone with weirdness that is compatible with ours, we team up and call it love.”
-Dr. Seuss

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.
-Douglas Yates

Love is a better teacher than duty.
-Albert Einstein

Fortune and love favor the brave.

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
-When Harry Met Sally

Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt that the sun doth move; Doubt truth to be a liar; But never doubt I love.”
-William Shakespeare

Love doesn’t make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
-Elizabeth Browning

Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.”
-Charles Dickens



It is just as easy to think in terms of abundance and prosperity instead of lack.

Prosperity is a way of living and thinking, and not just money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking, and not just a lack of money or things.
-Eric Butterworth

I give thanks that I am now rich, well and happy and that my financial affairs are in divine order.
-Catherine Ponder

In God-Mind there is no such thing as a fixed income. Besides, if you consider yourself on a fixed income, it is because you fixed it with your belief system.
-Edwene Gaines

It is just as easy to think in terms of abundance, opulence and prosperity as it is to think in terms of lack, limitation and poverty.
-Robert Collier

Don’t let the opinions of the average man sway you. Dream and he thinks you’re crazy. Succeed, and he thinks you’re lucky. Acquire wealth, and he thinks you’re greedy. Pay no attention. He simply doesn’t understand.
-Robert Allen

It is your right to be rich. You are here to lead the abundance life, and to be happy, healthy, radiant and free. You should therefore, have all the money you need to lead a full, happy, prosperous life.
-Joseph Murphy

Wealth is not a matter of intelligence, it’s a matter of inspiration.
-Jim Rohn

It’s God’s will for you to live in prosperity instead of poverty. It’s God’s will for you to pay your bills and not be in debt.
-Joel Osteen

You must be genuinely convinced that it is the Divine Will for you to have all that you need.
-Emmet Fox

The fastest way to bring more wonderful examples of abundance into your personal experience is to take constant notice of the wonderful things that are already there.
-Esther Hicks

By the mere fact that we have air in our body, the universe says you have the right to prosperity and abundance.
-Lisa Nichols

The only reason any person does not have enough money is because they are blocking money from coming to them with their thoughts.
-Rhonda Byrne

There’s enough for everyone. If you believe it, if you can see it, if you act from it, it will show up for you. That’s the truth.
-Michael Beckwith

All the breaks you need in life wait within your imagination, Imagination is the workshop of your mind, capable of turning mind energy into accomplishment and wealth.
-Napoleon Hill




If the only thing you said in your life was, “thank you,” that would be enough.

It’s a new year and I hope that 2017 is filled with blessings and love.

I want to introduce my new quotes pages. Lets begin the new year with gratitude.

I hope that they inspire and encourage you.

gratitude quotes

Gratitude is the wine for the soul. Go on. Get drunk.

Gratitude is a powerful process for shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things.
-The Secret

Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe.
-Neale Donald Walsch

The more gratitude I feel, the more I am aware that the supply is endless.
-Louise Hay

When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.
-Anthony Robbins

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.
-Denis Waitley

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.
-William Arthur Ward

Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.
-John Milton

If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice.
-Meister Eckhart

When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.
-Willie Nelson

If you are really thankful, what do you do? You share.
-W. Clement Stone

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

Look at everything as though you were seeing it for the first or the last time, then your time on earth will be filled with glory.
-Betty Smith

What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.
-Brené Brown




Nothing goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.

We are approaching the end of the 2016. It’s a good time to reflect.

What is left undone? What do you need to express that you didn’t? Who or what do you need to let go of?  What do you need more of in your life;


  • Simplicity
  • Money
  • Ease
  • Kindness
  • Friendship
  • Forgiveness
  • Happiness
  • Work
  • Good health

It all begins with you. You need spiritual faith to know when to let go. Wisdom for making good choices and the ability to know when to just laugh.



Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.

~Pema Chodron

Socrates – How to Solve a Problem

monk-meditationA note about desire. From Joseph Murphy – The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

 A young man asked Socrates how he could get wisdom. Socrates replied, “come with me.”

 He took the lad to a river, pushed the boy’s head under water, held it there until the boy was gasping for air, then relaxed and released his head. When the boy regained his composure, Socrates asked him, “What did you desire most when you were under water?”

 “I wanted air,” said the boy.

 Socrates said to him, “When you want wisdom as much as you wanted air when you were immersed in the water, you will receive it.” Likewise, when you really have an intense desire to overcome any block in your life, and you come to a clear-cut decision that there is a way out, and that is the course you wish to follow, then victory and triumph are assured.

 Now that is something to think about.



Be still and quiet, tune in with the Infinite Intelligence, and continue in right thought, right feeling, and right action, and you will arrive at your goal.





Take the High Road

www.ginarizzo.caWe all know them, those people who suck the life right out of you. Sometimes they are family members, friends or co-workers. You have good intentions of enjoying a night out together and then you feel it, your stomach is turning or you have a slight head-ache.

That person has been talking for about thirty minutes non-stop. You want to run but you can’t, not half way through your meal. You care deeply for this person but you can only handle them in small doses.

Does this make you feel guilty? After all they are your, parents, friend, boss or brother you should be able to put up with this. Or do you feel that you should stand up for yourself because you don’t care to put up with judgements and rude remarks?

So how do you navigate around these moments when you feel your life force just slipping away?

  1. Control the conversation by not saying too much. Unless someone specifically asks for help or advice do not give your opinion, suggestions or recommendations.
  2. Do not chime in with a pleasing attitude of acceptance.
  3. Say nothing and listen or tell them you believe that they will make good decisions.
  4. If you feel they are verbally abusive then you can tell them how you feel or leave. You can also take the high road knowing full well that they are not truly directing their angst toward you. Its their stuff.
  5. You can minimize your visits.

I have noticed that the more upset I get the more it fuels them because after all what they want is attention or to drag you down to their level. Not because they are mean people but they would just feel better if you are at their level of consciousness.

We can’t possibly know what is going on in another’s life. So it comes down to the age old saying – don’t expect others to change, you must be the change.

Taking the high road is not easy which why its called the high road. There’s a lot of climbing and bumpy roads ahead to get to that high road but something tells me its worth it.

Of course I am not for a moment suggesting that there aren’t times when complaining or blabbing doesn’t feel good and we just need to let out our frustration but there is another breed of people who make this a regular part of their lives. Its just too darn exhausting for me.

I’ve had an epiphany, that complaining about people who complain is still complaining!!

There are times when we truly need the help of our loved ones and I believe with all my heart to give your support but then there are those other times when it’s just the same babble, babble all over again when you just have to eat and run.



Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you.

Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth