When faced with problems you have two choices EVOLVE or REPEAT

Life can be wonderful, but it can also be challenging. I know what it’s like to struggle with life’s ups and downs. I have had my share of challenges and disappointments.

Do you often feel that you are stuck repeating the same old dramas? No matter how much you try to change things, your results are the same? Here is something to consider, your problem or challenge might be giving you an opportunity for personal growth.

I know this doesn’t sound very comforting however if you are often attracting similar people, situation’s or events, chances are you need to look inward to find out what’s really going on.

  • Here are a few self-care tips that might help you through the rough patches;
  • get creative, write, paint, colour, whatever inspires you
  • reduce your complaining, it’s draining your energy
  • organize your home if you find this challenging ask friend to help or hire someone, or go to http://www.ginarizzo.ca/your-stuff-love-it-use-it-or-release-it/
  • accept all your feelings without shame
  • get some sort of exercise and go for a walk

You may think these simple things won’t solve your problems and you would be right however practicing a few of these self-care suggestions will help you feel better. When you feel better you will begin to see things more clearly and feel a renewed sense of calm.

Gina

You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.

Joel Osteen

Turning Self-Criticism into An Asset

While I was writing this blog, I came across an article by S.A.R.K, which is worth sharing.

Inner Critic

The critical voices in our own heads are far more vicious than what we might hear from the outside. Our “inside critics” have intimate knowledge of us and can zero in on our weakest spots.

You might be told by the critics that you’re too fat, too old, too young, not intelligent enough, a quitter, not logical, prone to try too many things…
It’s all balderdash!

Some elements of these may be true, and it’s completely up to you how they affect you. Inside critics are really just trying to protect you.

You can:
Learn to dialogue with them.
Give them new jobs.
Turn them into allies.
You can also dismantle/exterminate them.”
-S.A.R.K. Creative Companion – How to Free Your Creative Spirit

It’s not that you stop having thoughts about how you view yourself, but you can choose to think better feeling thoughts about yourself.

Learn to treat yourself like a loving mother would treat a child or talk to yourself as if you were talking to a best friend. It will be a work in progress but press on.

Hugs,

Gina 

When we direct a lot of hostile energy toward the inner critic, we enter into a losing battle.
-Sharon Salzberg

The best way to succeed is always to try just one more time.

Winston Churchill said it best – Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about. The journey to success is not an easy one, it takes courage and determination.

There are many reasons why you may not be reaching your goals like, giving up too soon, or not having a strong enough action plan in place but one of the most common sneaky reasons is that we abandon what we truly desire.

You may question your abilities or feel foolish. You tell yourself things like I’m actually happy already I don’t need this added pressure. Self-doubt leaks into your heart and soul and despair sets in.

Imagine Thomas Edison or Steve Jobs saying, I’ve tried for too long and it’s still not working out so I’m throwing in the towel! Don’t give up on your dreams just because you haven’t figured it out just yet.

Best,

Gina

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.―Thomas Edison

Inaction breeds doubt – action breeds self-confidence

Self-confidence is a feeling in trusting your own abilities, judgement, qualities and power. Your personal experiences may have caused you to lose confidence in your abilities or have blown away your self-esteem.

A confident person:
• does what they believe is right
• they may ruffle the feathers of friends and family
• they take chances and are willing to make mistakes
• they are optimistic even in the face of adversity
• they accept their fear but still move toward their goals
• they can accept compliments and give them

Don’t confuse confidence with being arrogant, rebellious or spiteful as these feelings only make you feel worse and at best will provide temporary relief. Real self-confidence requires you to be honest with yourself and stick with it, even when it is uncomfortable.

Self-confidence is an important element in having a healthy and balanced life. Don’t wait for confidence before you do the thing you need to do. Do the thing and you will gain self-confidence.

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.Helen Keller

Enjoy,

Gina

A woman can’t be happy unless she has personal boundaries

Boundaries can be defined as the limits you set with other people, what you consider acceptable behaviour towards you. Generally, boundaries come from having a healthy dose of self-esteem and respect.

Without a clear sense of boundaries life can be challenging. You may find yourself being dominated, controlled or have the inability to make decisions for yourself. Feelings of guilt may arise when you listen to yourself instead of them.

To be in your power you must know what your values are. You have the right to say no or yes as you choose. You can set healthy boundaries and only you can make sure that they are adhered to.

Choose to be yourself because there is nothing more beautiful than a woman who stands in their own self-acceptance.

Best,

Gina

A woman is like a tea bag – you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

                                   

 

 

Say what you mean – Stop Whining, Start Living

I read and listen to a lot of personal transformation books. Some book titles are so direct that you don’t even need to read the book to get the message however reading them might prove to be useful.

Here are a few of my favorite titles.

There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Cheri Huber

What You Think of Me is None of My Business
Terry Cole-Whittaker

All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten
Robert Fulghum

It’s Called Work for a Reason
Larry Winget

Stop Whining, Start Living
Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Why Men Love Bitches
Sherry Argov

Sometimes I feel that we should communicate just as clearly and directly, it might save a few hours of trying to explain something that only requires a few sentences.

happy reading,

Gina

Don’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands

If you have tried and you think you have failed get up try again. Think how boring the other options are. Here are some wise words on living life with gusto.

A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.
-James Allen

If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.
-Katharine Hepburn

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.
-Maya Angelou

The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
-Amelia Earhart

If you don’t like being a doormat then get off the floor.
-Al Anon

Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.
-Byron Katie

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.
-Nelson Mandela

What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.
-Colette.

You live but once; you might as well be amusing.
-Coco Chanel

Best,
Gina

Don’t miss the signs

A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.
Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.”
The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.”
So, the rowboat went on.

Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.”
To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So, the motorboat went on.

Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.”
To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”
So, the helicopter reluctantly flew away. Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man died.

He went to Heaven. He finally got to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he said, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me”. I don’t understand why.

To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you want?”

Source unknown

Hugs,

Gina

you can triumph over trouble

Many of us have no idea just how powerful we actually are and unaware of the reservoir of inner strength we have. We may view others more powerful because of their status, title or the money they have.

Most of the time our inner power is reserved for crisis situations that happen in our lives or the lives of those we love.
Yet our inner power is always there, we just need to remember this and connect with it.

Claim Your Power
by Russell Kemp

Claim your power! Start it flowing. Activate it in your mind. There’s one mind and I’m it’s power. Calmly say this, and you’ll find you’re the master, not a puppet. You are God’s image, not a slave!

You can triumph over trouble. There’s power within you to save. Ever loving, ever waiting. Power in you heeds your word. You were born to be the victor, and to give up is absurd. Dare to listen! Dare to breathe deep!

Now relax, and think with power.Claim your power. Claim your power. God is waiting! Claim your power.”
You are the original power tool.  You do have the power to change your life and in so doing you will have positively changed the chemistry of the entire universe.

Claim your power today!

All the best,
Gina

 

don’t be fooled by appearances or social media updates

Comparing ourselves to others is a natural response and we do it automatically. Comparing ourselves with others is unfair because we are comparing our worst parts with what you think are their best parts.

When you look at other people you don’t always see the whole picture. Don’t be fooled by their appearance or social media updates. We easily forget that we really don’t always know what others are going through.

Most people have had their share of messes, mistakes and shame and all of these things have been a catalyst to becoming a wiser and better you. When you are in the depths of comparison, ask yourself what am I actually feeling?

Is comparison masking as jealousy or feelings of inadequacy?

Comparing yourself only serves a purpose when it inspires you to be something more. Be proud of yourself and how far you’ve come.

Comparison is the death of joy.
― Mark Twain