The saying is that ‘Good things come to those that wait,’ but what about good things coming to those that feel good instead? Monty Python told us to ‘always look on the bright side of life.’ What if looking at that bright side brought rewards to you right now?
Expressing gratitude is one of the fastest and most rewarding things you can do to feel better right away. However, we often hold back from expressing gratitude because of thoughts like this:
How can I be grateful?
- I have no money
- My health is poor
- My partner has left me
- My job is boring
- Nothing seems to be going right
I am not belittling anybody’s situation because I know how tough it can be. There are kids to feed, bills to be paid, heartaches to be endured and backaches to overcome. These are real life events and, yes, they do not feel good. However, by trying to focus on what is good in your life, you will start to feel better. Have you truly considered how many wonderful things you have in your life, right now?
Happiness starts on the inside first. As Abraham Lincoln put it, “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Do your eyes work? Can you walk? Do you have children who are precious to you? Do they make you smile? Did you have food to eat today? Do you have a good wage, nice clothes, drive a car? Do you have a good coffee pot, a bathtub? Can you order pizza? Do you have friends who love you? Can you go to a movie, or a concert? Do you have someone to love? Do you have a cat or dog to keep you company and love you, unconditionally? Can you visit the park, the beach, the ocean or the forest and surround yourself with nature?
Our society often tells us how much and what we should want or have. We compare ourselves to others and this can be challenging as we can feel that we never have enough. Who is not judging themselves by their acquisitions or their appearance? Real estate? Investments? Vacations? Vehicle? This focus could entail anything from wanting more money, a better job or a fitter body.
These are great goals to have and work towards. However, it is easy for us to give our power away if we succumb to the “lack mentality.” We begin to lose sight of what good we already have in our life and what is already working well for us. It is not because we are bad or greedy, often it is merely because we are acting from an unconscious level.
Its easy to be grateful when things are going well but its challenging when things aren’t. Yet it is during these times we need it the most. You might not be able to appreciate your current circumstances but maybe you can find beauty in a garden or some fresh homemade bread. Yes, it can be that simple.
Being in a state of gratitude feels good.
Do it often, it works.
For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.
Ralph Waldo Emerson